I just wanted to give you a little story of something that happened over the last month.
I made a comment on a Youtube video by Laci Green. She’s a well-known youtuber who runs a series called Sex +. In that series she talks about different sexual subject for each video. The one I commented on was her video about anal sex.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83lo7OqruJI
The comment was me bragging about my husband and our sex life. Another viewer (not going to mention names) decided to proposition me. When I said “no” he continued to pester me, despite the fact that I had said no two time before. My red flag went off. He was sexually harassing me over the internet.
Now, I know what you’re going to say:
“Why didn’t you block him immediately?”
“You should have reported him.”
No. What should happen is when I say “no” he should have backed off. When a woman says “no” it doesn’t mean, come at me honey! I really think Meg from Hercules said it best:
“Well, you know how men are. They think ‘No’ means ‘Yes’ and ‘Get lost’ means ‘Take me, I’m yours.'”
I did eventually block and reported him. My husband even emailed him. And that’s what got him to apologize. Not the “no” and not the rants I gave him. I had to be protected by another man before he took me seriously. That’s not right.
That is rape culture, ladies and gentlemen. That right there. And I sincerely hope no other woman comes across him, because he’s a potential rapist.
Note: I can only talk about these experiences from the point of view as a cisgendered white female. If you want to share your own stories, go ahead and do so in the comments below.
Clements, Ron and John Musker. 1997. Hercules. Film. 2014.
